For all of those who still choose not to understand consent, this one’s for you:
There is no situation in which anyone is required to have sex with you.
We don’t have to have sex with you because we went to your house. We don’t have to have sex with you because we said earlier that we would. We don’t have to have sex with you because we’re wearing clothes that you find provocative.
No one has to have sex with you unless they want to have sex with you.
The fact that you choose not to understand this doesn’t change the fact that if you proceed without our consent, you are committing a crime. If you choose to proceed even though we have not consented, you’re committing a sexual assault. If you penetrate any part of our bodies when we haven’t given you permission, even if we are not fully capable of agreeing to that penetration because we are intoxicated, incoherent, or incapable of saying no due to your threats or intimidation, the crime you’re committing is rape.
If we drink too much, or become intoxicated through other channels, or in any way become incapacitated, leave us alone. If we ask you to stop, no matter what point of sexual activity we’ve reached, do so. If we change our minds even after you’re sure we’re totally into having sex with you, accept it.
If that means you won’t get to have sex even though you really, really wanted to…suck it up. Accept our decision. There is no time nor situation in which you are entitled to have sex with us, and there is certainly no time nor situation in which we “got what we deserved” when you proceed without our full, enthusiastic consent.
We have the right to say no at any time, in any situation. We have the right to say no even if you believe our clothes indicate that we’re a girl who says “yes” a lot. We have the right to say no to you even if we do say yes to a lot of other partners. We have the right to say no even if we’ve had sex with you before, even if we’re your girlfriend or even your wife. We have the right to say no, and you are obligated, both legally and morally, to accept that no.
No does not mean “maybe.” No does not mean “convince me” or “pressure me.” No does not mean “I really want to, but I don’t want people to think I’m a slut, so just assure me it will be okay and I’ll change my mind.” No simply means no. It means stop. It means that if you continue, you are crossing some very broad and concrete lines into criminal behavior.
In case you still don’t get it, here’s Amber Rose to make it even more clear for you:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C1LOL9MbWoU
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