A few years ago, a writer named Julie Sibert wrote a story about submission — specifically in a Christian marriage. She is (was?) a housewife who stays home while her husband “goes out into the world and slays dragons.”
The article — “I’m a Submissive Christian Wife And My Marriage Is Blazin’ Hot” — is pretty much exactly what you’d expect from someone who has adopted the Biblical stance on how women should behave. The article is full of ideas and tips guaranteed to suppress and degrade women.
She’s the dog poop lady.
On any given day, I’m breaking up sibling squabbles, staring into my pantry to see if the dinner fairy? has again overlooked me, and trying to tame the calendar. Oh, I also clean up the dog poop.
It’s her “calling” to let a man control her.
My husband and I are Christians and therefore I believe that it is my calling to be a submissive wife.
What he says goes, without exception unless he asks her to do something illegal.
I am submissive in that while my husband and I openly discuss all major decisions that impact our family, I ultimately yield to his decisions.
Apparently, her husband is Christ-like.
I am fortunate to have a husband who loves his wife as Christ loved the church.
She claims that her traditional role leads to awesomeness.
In fact, our traditional roles and Christian values have led to a great sex life.
The most delightful gems, however, are what she says about sex:
- I am not talking about a wife automatically doing whatever her husband wants sexually, especially if what he wants flies in the face of what the Bible commands.
- If, on the other hand, your husband simply wants to try a new position or add some variety, I urge you to not instantly say no without some legitimate discussion and prayer.
- Orgasms were designed by God. And orgasms feel really, really good. (For the record, I totally agree.)
- Odds are that because the clitoris is a bit less predictable than the penis, your husband is going to need your help in understanding what it is going to take to make you climax.
- We have a mutual sense of safety and trust that can’t help but lead to great sex.
- I believe God gives good gifts to married couples to be savored and enjoyed, not ignored and treated carelessly.
She believes that her sex life with her hubby is good because they both feel safe and they’re both secure in their roles. And because it’s a gift from God. Also, she believes that vulnerability leads to ultimate satisfaction, but that’s not always the case and her belief is problematic.
First of all, let me say that I’m glad there’s a Christian woman out there who isn’t trying to teach other women to deny their sexuality. That’s awesome. However, some of her “tips” are laughable, and some are even potentially dangerous for vulnerable women.
Vulnerability is NOT a good thing. Neither is her concept of “whatever he says goes.” And should she be telling anyone to pray before doing the nasty? Should she be instilling yet MORE sexual guilt in women? Because Christian women don’t have enough sexual hangups?
WTF? Stupid.
Sibert recently recanted (sort of). Apparently, the Fifty Shades of Grey books and movies have brought her story back into the forefront and it’s become viral again. She’s horrified that an ad for AshleyMadison.com shows on her article and apparently Yahoo used an unsuitable image.
Somehow, the Your Tango article I wrote about submission (from a godly standpoint) is now appearing high on a Yahoo page somewhere. And it is generating the wrong kind of commentary in my email inbox about a different kind of submission — the perverse kind of the Fifty Shades of Grey variety.
You perverts! Heathens!
Anyhow, y’all be sure and pray about it if you want to do the doggy or anything else outside of missionary. According to Sibert, God micromanages this and wants to be privy to what you do in bed.
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